Just found out my wife has it too 8-(

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Postby wallbanger » Mon Oct 19, 2009 10:20 am

Hey Brad,

Good to hear you and Cathy have got through round one and are getting stuck into round two - you will find that it just becomes part of your life, these little battles, and before you know it you will both be at the end, and pondering what life will dish up next. Good luck to you both for this next lot - I hope the headaches stay away, and that everything runs as smoohtly as it can.

I'm happy to hear the kids are coping - as I have mentioned before, they are the little pockets of sunshine that keep us going, and are so good at taking your mind of what is going on without even knowing they are doing it!!

Keep us updated as you go - I don't get on here as much as I should, but wife always checks it as let's me know when you have posted something else on here, so I get the updates.

Sparkles, thank you for the lovely words - there aren't too many guys on here and in a way I can understand that. Their focus (understandably!) is on the women in their lives, and as we all know blokes aren't overly keen in talking about things at the best of times and many would be out there supporting their wives as much as they can without even thinking about a place like this. Hopefully that might change over time, but I doubt it. Personally I find it beneficial at times to just get in here and read what others are going through, and get some strength for the victories others have had. Every little bit helps us to keep positive and know that this horrible thing is, as you say, just a "blip in the radar". I'm sorry your husband has to be away with work - I'm sure you don't need me to tell you that even though he isn't there (or perhaps even more so BECAUSE he isn't there) you would be in his mind constantly and he would be worried sick over you. I shudder to think how the women on here cope without the support of their loved ones or as single mums - cr*p, I struggle to comprehend how you girls cope with it at all, so I dip my hat to you. Hopefully your hubby has someone he can talk to about everything as well - us guys definitely need to get it all off our chests at some point too. Thanks again, and good luck with everything.

My wife Ginny now only has one more chemo session to go this week - still waiting on complete genetic test results to work out where we go from there, but at least the chemo is done. I am so proud of her for getting through it - she is so strong and tough, and like so many of the women on here, has such a great, positive attitude. Fingers crossed for the future for us, and for you all.

Dave.

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Postby erint » Wed Oct 14, 2009 4:53 pm

Hi Brad,
hope all is going well for round 2. How long are you in Townsville for? I will be there from 21-27 October visiting from Adelaide. I'd love to meet up if you guys are still there. I am 10 months post treatment and have hair again, look just like an ordinary person again. I thought it might help to see that the "After" looks pretty ordinary.
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Postby sparkles3001 » Wed Oct 14, 2009 1:40 am

Hi there both Brad and Dave,
Without going on too much, I am really pleased to see you guys in here. I wish my husband was prepared to get involved in my stoush with BC, and this forum. He's mostly been in denial. And as he works away for 2 weeks at a time he really hasn't been around for me.
I just really want to let you know that your children will most likely not even get how unwell your beautiful wives are and how serious the situation is. Try not to worry about the impact on them, and Dave, you are spot when you say JUST ENJOY THEM. I have discovered a new appreciation for my beautiful girls since all of this began last year.
There is extra funding available for extra child care hours if you can use it. It's kind of between the centre and the Family Assistance Office.
I was also watching on Catalyst today that there is a new online/telephone counselling service for those affected by mild or moderate anxiety disorders I think it was based in Sydney.
I love that you guys are supporting each other.
Keep it up, you are setting a fabulous example and providing something of a precedent as far as I know...
Please pass on my deepest regards and great big hugs to both your girls, hope to get to know them as time and treatment goes by. After all, it's hopefully just a blip on the radar
Love
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Postby Janette » Tue Oct 13, 2009 10:58 pm

Thanks for the update Brad, I hope this round of TAC goes well with minimum side effects. :hugs:
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Postby ove99 » Tue Oct 13, 2009 10:54 pm

Hi all,

Thanks for all your support so far. Caths head aches were brought under control by phenergen of all things. We are in Townsville again for round 2 of TAC. It has been good to have her back to normal for the last few days!!!

She has developed sore ribs under the effected breast which will get checked while here. We also so the radiation specialist tomorrow. So busy all this stuff.

The kids are coping fairly well, they are little troopers.

Well will let you know how we go.

Brad

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Postby cherub » Thu Sep 24, 2009 9:46 pm

Welcome Brad & Cath
sorry you have to go this journey
so hope your chemo shrinks the cancer away so its very small
and that chemo doesnt make you too sick
get lots of family help when you get home you will need it with those lovely little girls
take care both of you
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Postby ove99 » Thu Sep 24, 2009 9:45 pm

Thanks for all your support. We are finally home...yay!!!

Cath is fine at present. A little tired but it has been a big week too with lots to process. Has a headache and the dry mouth thing though.

Gees its good to be home and the reception from the kids was fantastic. Now to just get her over the hump and make things as comfortable for her as I can and TRY and keep the kids off her back.

Well a short post tonight, our own bed is beckoning!!!

Brad.

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Postby lesleydonna » Thu Sep 24, 2009 3:48 pm

Hi Brad,

glad you found the forum and i hope you will be encouraged and supported through this horrible time in your lives. Dave gave great advice, having support from your partner is the absolute best thing when your having chemo etc. Its also encouraging to be able to share. a problem shared is a problem halved etc I hope that your wife doesnt get too sick, the time will (although it wont seem like it) go very quickly and hopefully this will just be a small blip on your life together. All the best
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Postby wallbanger » Thu Sep 24, 2009 10:07 am

Brad,

Nice work mate - rapt to see that Cathy made it through the first chemo, and you as well! I agree, you feel like a waste of space sitting there while they get the chemo done, but I have come to realise we play a very important role in doing just that, so if being a "stale bottle of pee" is what we have to do, then bring it on!! Haha.

The trying time starts from here on - it is different for everyone obviously, but for my wife (Ginny) she has chemo every three weeks and the basic pattern is that she feels really cr*p for a week, then takes about half of the next week to slowly improve back to relatively normal. Then it's a week of feeling good before back in to start it all again.

Enjoy the time with the kids - as I said earlier, they really put things into perspective and take your mind of it all, even for a little while. If you get to the shops I applaud you both - that would be a great effort!

Funny what 'jayem' said about feeling worse for her husband having to see her go through the chemo then actually going through it herself! My wife feels exactly the same, and has said it to me many times - she doesn't think she could've coped if I or the kids had it, but she can manage when she does! I think she is tougher than she ever imagines. Whilst it is difficult to see this happening to someone you love, I'm sure it is nothing compared to going through it.

All the best to Cath - hope things progress as well as they can.

Dave.

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Postby schoolteacher » Wed Sep 23, 2009 8:54 pm

Well done Brad (and Cathy) One down! Keep crossing them off and you will be at the end before you know it. I loved being able to say I was halfway through etc. It takes a couple of days for the chemo to kick in. I can't remember what cathy was having sorry.. I found days 3-5 were the toughest. I was in a fog and barely functioned at all. That's when Cathy will need support. Make sure she drinks lots of fluid. Water tasted foul to me but dry ginger was good and strangely milk! Smoothies were filling. I also discovered soda water with a bit of lemon or ginger cordial.
And something to suck on to get rid of the metallic taste that may develop. Hope all goes well for you.
:hugs: :hugs: :hugs: :hugs: Chris

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Postby TanS » Wed Sep 23, 2009 8:48 pm

Hi Brad,

Glad it went well for Cath. That needle is probably neulasta...........it makes a big difference in your body recovering between each chemo cycle. My DH had the job of giving it to me.......I used to grab handfuls of his hair and stand in front of him........the deal was if he hurt me I hurt him........lol. The needle is very fine and he did a good job.

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Postby eenymeeny » Wed Sep 23, 2009 6:26 pm

Welcome Brad and Cathy, :wave:

The ladies on the forum are some of the most caring, supportive, loving people I have had the privilige to meet. There will always be someone here to answer questions or to just lend an ear if you feel the need to vent.

:hugs: Think Happy Thoughts,

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