breast cancer friend with lung mestastises
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Joys I think Chris & the others have said it all. I also have lung mets & got the results of my last scan yesterday & although there are tumors scattered through my lungs they have hardly grown in 3 years. I am on Femara & it works for me. There is always a new drug on the horizon!
Just show you care. Cheers Jocelyn
Just show you care. Cheers Jocelyn
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Joys I have ABC to the lung plus every where else & I have never been given a date time when I would die.
Your friend may well die within the year but she may well go on for 2 or 6 who knows
My longest standing friends come reound once a month & we go to dinner together. My neighbours & I have a Woody Allen video night every 2-3 months I have a friend from this forum whom I email, phone go out with she & I are great supports for each other.
What your friend needs is practical support & ideas for & about her children, that's what she will be worried most about. I have spoken to my daughters friends & made sure they know what is going on & they are all ready to support my daughter when the time comes. (my daughter is an adult young woman but still my only child who carries a great deal of my illnes on her shoulders & needs that support from her friends). I have found that if people know exactly what the situation is they are more understanding & have a better idea of how to react & act. Chris
Your friend may well die within the year but she may well go on for 2 or 6 who knows
My longest standing friends come reound once a month & we go to dinner together. My neighbours & I have a Woody Allen video night every 2-3 months I have a friend from this forum whom I email, phone go out with she & I are great supports for each other.
What your friend needs is practical support & ideas for & about her children, that's what she will be worried most about. I have spoken to my daughters friends & made sure they know what is going on & they are all ready to support my daughter when the time comes. (my daughter is an adult young woman but still my only child who carries a great deal of my illnes on her shoulders & needs that support from her friends). I have found that if people know exactly what the situation is they are more understanding & have a better idea of how to react & act. Chris
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My suggestion is to just continue exactly as you have in the past with your friend. If you visited; continue visiting; if it was just phone contact; continue phone contacting etc. I think when people start to "act differently" does not help the friend at all. Her life has suddenly been turned upside down; so your friend is looking for normality and you can provide that with your normal contact between you both for as long as possible.
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Joys and Tricia I am sorry to hear of your friends. I totally agree with the others in saying just be there for them, be empathetic not sympathetic and take yourselves back as to what you both need when going through your journeys.
Also dont beat yourselves up as this too is one of the hardest things that you will do to yourselves. The feeling of guilt as to why you are doing well when your friends have been given such news. This guilt can really get you down and mess with your feelings. Be the best friend you can be and most of all take care of yourselves. We are all here for you in your time of need and support.
Also dont beat yourselves up as this too is one of the hardest things that you will do to yourselves. The feeling of guilt as to why you are doing well when your friends have been given such news. This guilt can really get you down and mess with your feelings. Be the best friend you can be and most of all take care of yourselves. We are all here for you in your time of need and support.
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Hi Tricia & Joys,
I was diagnosed with mets about 10 months ago, & I now have relatives & friends who I don't hear from.
All I can suggest is keep in touch, if you feel uneasy on the phone or in person, send an sms occassionally to see how they are.
I have several friends who have touched my heart recently by just keeping in contact & being there for me.
CP (Cheryle)
I was diagnosed with mets about 10 months ago, & I now have relatives & friends who I don't hear from.
All I can suggest is keep in touch, if you feel uneasy on the phone or in person, send an sms occassionally to see how they are.
I have several friends who have touched my heart recently by just keeping in contact & being there for me.
CP (Cheryle)
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the best friend you can have through this journey
is one who never forgets
I had lots of so called friends
and even family who just didnt get it
who some I now will never see again
they chose to be scared and ignorant
I find the most comforting thing is a hug & an I love you
give them a caserole so she doesnt have to cook
go over and clean out her fridge
or have hubby mow the lawns so they can spend time
together as a family
anyway thats my hints
love
Jennifer
is one who never forgets
I had lots of so called friends
and even family who just didnt get it
who some I now will never see again
they chose to be scared and ignorant
I find the most comforting thing is a hug & an I love you
give them a caserole so she doesnt have to cook
go over and clean out her fridge
or have hubby mow the lawns so they can spend time
together as a family
anyway thats my hints
love
Jennifer
Jennifer
Primary BC:
DX Apr 06 DCIS Gr3 St2B Oes + Prog + Lump & Aux 1 node+
TX: ECx4, Radio 6.5wks, Port, Taxol x12 & AI'S & have CFS
ABC:
October 08 Mets spine & Chest wall
Dec 08 mets liver - taxotere, xoleda & zometa
Jan 09 PPort - now still on Taxotere 18months
Mediastinum mets are taking my voice away
now for rads x 10 august 2010
Primary BC:
DX Apr 06 DCIS Gr3 St2B Oes + Prog + Lump & Aux 1 node+
TX: ECx4, Radio 6.5wks, Port, Taxol x12 & AI'S & have CFS
ABC:
October 08 Mets spine & Chest wall
Dec 08 mets liver - taxotere, xoleda & zometa
Jan 09 PPort - now still on Taxotere 18months
Mediastinum mets are taking my voice away
now for rads x 10 august 2010
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breast cancer friend with lung mestastises
BC December 6/2005 bitateral mastect (1 proph + 1 cancer)+ 9/12 nodes+er+ prog- Her2- 2006-FECx6 + radiation X 25 4/2006 BRCA2+ 11/2006(prophilatic ooph+ hyster) now on Arimidex for 5 years. bla!
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