Just show you care. Cheers Jocelyn
Your friend may well die within the year but she may well go on for 2 or 6 who knows
My longest standing friends come reound once a month & we go to dinner together. My neighbours & I have a Woody Allen video night every 2-3 months I have a friend from this forum whom I email, phone go out with she & I are great supports for each other.
What your friend needs is practical support & ideas for & about her children, that's what she will be worried most about. I have spoken to my daughters friends & made sure they know what is going on & they are all ready to support my daughter when the time comes. (my daughter is an adult young woman but still my only child who carries a great deal of my illnes on her shoulders & needs that support from her friends). I have found that if people know exactly what the situation is they are more understanding & have a better idea of how to react & act. Chris
As the others have said to just be there for your friends and make them feel like they can talk about whatever they need to. I'm sorry, hopefully they can do well with their treatments.
Dx LCIS Dec 1997, Dx IDC, DCIS, bilateral LCIS Oct 2005 er+pr+her2-
Bilateral Mastectomies, expanders and silicone implants
When you have abc, a friend who wants to hear and understand you is precious (few and far between).
1st dx ILC st 3, er+, pr+, her2-, T3, N1 1998. Bone mets 2004. Liver mets 2008. Leptomeningial mets 2009.
Also dont beat yourselves up as this too is one of the hardest things that you will do to yourselves. The feeling of guilt as to why you are doing well when your friends have been given such news. This guilt can really get you down and mess with your feelings. Be the best friend you can be and most of all take care of yourselves. We are all here for you in your time of need and support.
I was diagnosed with mets about 10 months ago, & I now have relatives & friends who I don't hear from.
All I can suggest is keep in touch, if you feel uneasy on the phone or in person, send an sms occassionally to see how they are.
I have several friends who have touched my heart recently by just keeping in contact & being there for me.
is one who never forgets
I had lots of so called friends
and even family who just didnt get it
who some I now will never see again
they chose to be scared and ignorant
I find the most comforting thing is a hug & an I love you
give them a caserole so she doesnt have to cook
go over and clean out her fridge
or have hubby mow the lawns so they can spend time
together as a family
anyway thats my hints
DX Apr 06 DCIS Gr3 St2B Oes + Prog + Lump & Aux 1 node+
TX: ECx4, Radio 6.5wks, Port, Taxol x12 & AI'S & have CFS
October 08 Mets spine & Chest wall
Dec 08 mets liver - taxotere, xoleda & zometa
Jan 09 PPort - now still on Taxotere 18months
Mediastinum mets are taking my voice away
now for rads x 10 august 2010
Dx 7/07 DCIS 2cm, IDC 1.8cm, multifocal. Grade 2/3. 0/7 Nodes. Vascular Lymph Invasion. ER/PR- Her2 +++ under reconstrution lat flap, expanders. C cup
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